“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” – Lao Tzu
I have a confession to make. I am a recovering people pleaser.
And by that I don’t mean that I didn’t like helping anyone who was in need but I was never able to say “no” to the things I didn’t wanted to do. I was afraid of being left out. I always agreed to anything people (and by people I mean those who claimed to be my friends) asked me to do without realizing that they might be using me.
I was so afraid of being rejected that I always put myself second. I was never my own priority and because of that I had no personality of my own. I always thought I was not enough.
Not enough to be loved, not enough to be a friend, fear of being a disappointment. Because of these things I was in a war with myself, my inner self .I didn’t knew what to do. Depression and anxiety hit me. When people didn’t like me I used to get upset. I always thought maybe I am flawed.
“If you live for people’s acceptance, you will die from their rejection.” – Lecrae
Now I have been very lucky to have some people in my life who saw through me .They told me that these are not my flaw’s rather my insecurities which with time grew so strong that I didn’t realize it had a major impact on my life. Our society is rather cruel it’s so quick at passing judgment’s without even realizing that what the other person might be going through. I didn’t had faith in my own decision making power. The fear of society and that one common phrase “log kia kahain gy” stopped me from sharing anything with anyone or doing anything for myself. I was afraid of being judged. And this weakness of mine gave other power over me, to control me.
“The only thing wrong with trying to please everyone is that there’s always at least one person who will remain unhappy with you.” – Elizabeth Parker
I learned this the hard way that some people will like me, some people will hate me and I have to be OK with it. I lost a few people by saying “no” to several things I didn’t wanted to do but it was worth it. I was finally free. I accepted myself the way I am. If you have a few true friends then it’s absolutely OK to not be everyone’s favorite. No one is perfect in this world. People in your life should love you regardless of your flaws. Your flaws makes you human being. You should accept yourself the way you are because what people think is not important, what you think and how you view yourself is the key to an individual’s growth and success.
Acceptance is the key because it’s ok to be flawed.
“One of the most freeing things we learn in life is that we don’t have to like everyone, everyone doesn’t have to like us, and it’s perfectly okay.” ~Unknown
I hope I was able to inspire some of my viewers!!!